OK, about the S & M lifestyle

well, you guys wanted it so here it is. This is THE user based information about a lifestyle i have lived for now at least forever. if you have questions please by all means post it under THIS post, and ill make another blog about your question alone, with intricate detail of what you want to know. Now lets get started shall we?


What is the number one thing in a S & M relationship?

you probably said love right? not really

TRUST is the key. love can actually come later. Without trust you have no way of knowing how long it will last. the slave must completely trust the master to make the "big" Decisions about whats good for them and for the slave, and the Master, must completely trust the slave to make him happy and to make sure his needs are fulfilled. lets face it ladies, its a tedious task to pick up the baggage some of you bring and we get tired from it, not of it, from it. if you have kids, it gets tiring of taking care of them sometimes doesnt it? making sure whats best for your kid regardless if they like it or not? kinda like that. now knowing that you are taken care of, do you want to make things harder for the master? or would you like to take some of the pressure off? if you answered yes to the second one, congrats we can move on to step 2

TRAINING

regardless of what you think, slaves do NOT come off of an assembly line, although it would make our lives easier wouldnt it? but i digress, slaves wont know how to please you from the first moment, so you have to train them to know what you like even if what you like changes everyday, slaves, it is your duty (if you are truely interested in making him/her happy) to learn what he likes and loves. Masters, do not, and i repeat do NOT use this as an excuse to make absurd thing up for her to do just to say you love them and feel like you are in power, the moment she says " i want to be released" you have no choice but to let her go. slaves, this does not give you an excuse to make you feel empowered to get him to do whatever he wants. I have had a few relationships where the woman said "if you dont do this ill want to be released" at that point i say "then you are released" the look on their face after, im not going to lie, is priceless. slaves, we do not take ultimatums lightly, we WILL cast you aside and wait possibly 5 or more years to find a slave who wants the lifestyle to serve, not be served.

At this point you are probably thinking im crazy. which i probably am by society standards of normality, but i do know what im talking about. at this point love can be a factor, once she realizes its an absolute pleasure to make you happy so you can continue to care for her, then love strikes This is the point where most things go wrong.

LOVE is a very fickle thing ladies and gentlemen. it makes the most smart person do dumb things and not even be able to notice hes doing it. there may be love, but dont let it change the nature of the relationship.

once a slave is fully trained by the masters standards the slave is then collared. although most people wont know this, but it will let others in the lifestyle know that she is someones slave. and not to touch. slaves, this collar, is not just some sort of jewelry or equipment, it is the Highest honor a slave can have. do NOT take it lightly, the very fact that you have one means your master thinks you have proven yourself and are worthy of it. Any questions please post below, or tell me how im doing with the teaching so far.